Archive for December, 2013

Dear Fears

20131231-144159.jpg

JoyInciter #2 — “Walking Into”

We’re about to walk into a brand new year–2014! Let’s make sure we walk where we WANT to walk. Here’s a post I did a while back about the importance of “walking into” that which is most important to us. So, come on, let’s walk!

NealEnJoy

Recently, I introduced the JoyInciters, a collection of simple practices which I use regularly to increase the level of happiness and joy in my life.  The first one was what I called my Thanksgiving Book, or gratitude journal.  Have you started one?  No?  Well maybe get one going this weekend.  And remember to tell me about it.

Now please allow me to tell you briefly about a second practice, which is SO very simple but SO much fun and, I believe, helps create a very healthy pattern of thinking.  MUCH of being joyful in life has more to do with our habitual thinking patterns, or mindsets–more so even than our actual circumstances.  And, as I’m sure you have noticed, that little person inside our minds sometimes has very negative things to say:

“I could never do a class project as incredible as the ones Dr. Saye showed us in…

View original post 450 more words

Phil Robertson: “Marry Little Girls”

camo1

Dear A&E:

Are you still supportive of Duck Dynasty’s Phil Robertson? He is now advocating MEN marrying little GIRLS.

That’s fine with you, A&E, right?

“You got to marry these girls when they are about 15 or 16, they’ll pick your ducks,” proclaims Phil.

Happy and Joyful Most of the Time

I love this encouraging message from Rhonda Byrne (of The Secret fame):

Ch2

It is possible to be happy and joyful most of the time. You just have to look at little children and see their natural joy. You may say that little children are free and don’t have anything to worry about, but you are free too! You are free to choose worry or to choose joy, and whatever you choose will attract exactly that. Worry attracts more worry. Joy attracts more joy.

Rhonda Byrne
The Secret… bringing joy to billions

Ch1

Say Yes!

Yes1

I submit for your consideration, Faithful Blog Followers, that the word “Yes” is perhaps the most powerful word in our vocabulary.  It’s sort of Youthful and Exciting and Sassy.

It makes me want to Yell and Express my True Self and Sing!

Say it out loud right now (if you can).

Y5

Doesn’t that feel good?  (Say “Yes.”)

As we are saying goodbye to 2013 and welcoming 2014, I encourage you to come up with a List of That Which You Desire to say “Yes!” to in this new year.

I love symbols and reminders.  One (somewhat weird) thing I do is look for sticks which look like the letter Y.  (Reminder to self: Therapist Talking Point #58.)  They become my “Yes!” sticks. I don’t keep them.  I just think, “That stick reminds me of the letter ‘y’ and the word ‘Yes!'”  And then start saying “Yes!” to whatever I want/desire/hope for at that moment.

Here are a couple of Yes Sticks:

VwJzYCd3oML1JC5W.jpg

tlvW6KSVGiI8s5b8.jpg

mAgoKfms482r4DFu.jpg

And here’s a Short List of what I’m saying “YES!” to in this Brand New Year.

1.  Overwhelming Peace in my life.

2.  Healthy Eating.

3.  Being the Best Son two elderly parents could ever have.

4.  Becoming the very Personification of Encouragement.

5.  Joy.

6.  Uncontrollable Peals of Laughter.

7.  Grandfathering (Abu-ing) to beat sixty.

8.  Treating every person I meet as if she or he were the most important person on earth (lesson from my dad, who actually did this consistently).

*************************

What about you?  What are you saying “Yes!” to in 2014?

Here’s buddy and songwriter/performer Amy Steinberg and her cool song, “Yes.”

*

Say “Yes!”

Y3

Y1

Y2

Y4

Wait, Two More Things!

I know I said there were just five things I wanted for Christmas that I didn’t get. But here are two more.

*
rjxh2ELllAWJLyPu.jpg

1.  This lil bottle of cologne.

lSWbsGWCj9hOnaQm.jpg

But my bday is coming up Jan 10, so there’s still time!

2.  Will this fit my new, nearly vegetarian eating plan?

pCGl6sy4CEWXAw4u.jpg

(For some reason, when I see these things, I forget EVERYTHING I know about health.  All I want to do is stuff them in my mouth.)

Five Things

FiveThings5

Five Things2

Five things I got for Christmas that I wasn’t expecting:

qRyVSNtYZigVHhP3.png

1.  A great new cadre of friends who meet each Wednesday at 12:12 pm in a different Savannah Historic District square … to express gratitude!

YsaszELC4awKVgxA.jpg

763Tp9syMW3gZhzM.jpg

OvPr6td6dXHZHwHc.png

uMozmSfdKq4ZF4Ml.png

2.  A new puppy!  Okay, maybe “technically” grandsons Daniel and Gabriel got Spyro (named after the Skylanders game character) for THEIR Christmas present.  But after keeping him for three days (of five) while D and G and their parents have flown to Miami to frolic in the sun …

k2uPyQ4tGfaELlU3.jpg

woTdSqO7tkOldObv.png

udU68PWRrfFqRNkX.jpg

… I am FULLY CONVINCED that Spyro loves me best.  Seriously!  And, really, the boys are so young, they’ll get over the heartbreak pretty soon, don’t you think?

omeLjFB9jwzbazB3.jpg

7TyFAnAzKXgXajsf.jpg

Spyro and I worked on our official portrait for a little while yesterday afternoon.  We have narrowed it down to four:

VO6tA8xpkgaMUOnf.jpg

XR4cUQPXfWcr3vWj.jpg

Donald Neal Saye and Spyro Neal Bosch

NE7jWRuGIn20yXzu.jpg

SQTGXgr19itPFS69.jpg

What do you think?

3.  A lot of Fake Snow

7sSjxQPduhs7xofA.jpg

j067Gziy8jO5z7mR.jpg

(I’m not sure why I look SO crazed in that pic.  Like I’m on a fake snow high or something.)

CYqdsggeuDsKNSeE.jpg

9ueKXkFG34yIoTtO.jpg

yjXsMjJnkSvVjS4A.jpg

i0LtDSxB5XsNhBLp.jpg

9aCObJgdZQkf1le6.jpg

(This obsession with “snow” got started when friends Donnie and Kinzie …

Tc28L45ornwmWbVC.jpg

… Christmas-ing way up in Yankeeland Urbana, IL, had the nerve to say there really IS such a thing as snow, which is frozen and white and falls from the sky to make Christmases White.  Well, D and K, not in Savannah, it don’t!)

4.  Yet another new cadre of friends who meet each Friday evening in my new Washington Square neighborhood/ward.

ikNu2LeSvjzcUNm6.jpg

Greening3

sXxmLc3fWGHvkdBU.jpg

I’ll take more pics soon and share.  The gathering is called “Fancy Friday” because there used to be a fancy-ish dress code.

5.  Joy for no reason.  Other than it’s the holidays and a time to BE HAPPY.  BE.  BE  BE.

FiveThings1

Five things I didn’t get for Christmas that I was either expecting or wanting to receive:

1.  Some sort of an apology or reconciling statement from Duck Dynasty and patriarch Phil Robertson after his hateful and divisive diatribe about gays and blacks.  Instead, A & E reinstates him, while Walmart, with Paula Deen wares no longer available, continues to hawk a prejudiced ranter’s trade in a season of love, all in the name of free speech.  (Of course, we all know this is about the dollar, not equality or acceptance or love.)

2.  Speaking of the dollar, that big ole more-than-half-a-billion-dollar lottery winning recently.  If I had won … Is A & E for sale?

3.  Real snow.  (IF there is such a thing.)

4.  Liposuction.

5.  Everything on My Grown-Up Christmas List:

*
So here’s my lifelong wish
My grown up Christmas list
Not for myself
But for a world in need

No more lives torn apart
That wars would never start
And time would heal all hearts
Every man would have a friend
And right would always win
And love would never end
This is my grown up Christmas list

Five Things4

May all our Holidays and Everydays be Filled with Healthy Joy!

FiveThings5