Posted in JoyInciters

Sometime

Sometime all you need is a change of scenery …

Robert and I are back down in Ponte Vedra, Florida at the oceanfront condo my daughter is renting for six months, as she contemplates expanding her medical business down here. So of course we find ways to finagle our way here as often as possible.

I swim 20 lamps each morn at 7:30 before the sun becomes a broiler.

This summer, I am attempting to write a memoir about the challenge of “marrying” my previous straight life (to Donna) and my current gay life (with Robert). And what a challenge!

Here’s my sunny study in the condo where I’m attempting to write …

As I sit in that wicker chair, some days I realize that we’re all writing our memoirs, day by day and year by year.

I hope your story is filled with an Abundance of Good.

Posted in Lean in to the Lovely

Farmhouse Fun

As I mentioned before, Robert and I are staying at an old farmhouse in Effingham County, Georgia while our Savannah apartment is being renovated.

Here are a few photos to give you a taste of the personality of the farmhouse.

Posted in Travel

Miami Day Three: Coffee-ing and Museum-ing

We started off the day with coffee in Little Havana‘s iconic La Colada Gourmet “The House of Cuban Coffee”

Tres Leche Cubano coffee and flan for breakfast.

Interestingly, enough, there are feral chickens running around the area.

Here’s what Google told me about that …

“The presence of numerous chickens in Little Havana, Miami, is largely due to the area’s cultural ties to Cuba and the historical practice of keeping chickens in backyards. Many Cuban immigrants brought chickens with them, and over time, some were released or escaped, establishing feral populations. The rooster, in particular, holds symbolic significance in Cuban culture, representing strength, virility, and heritage.”

Next, we ventured a short distance down the coast to Vizcaya Museum and Gardens.

On to my fav Cuban restaurant, Versailles.

Mojito and Fresh Guava Juice

For me: VACA FRITA DE POLLO: Grilled Shredded Chicken with Onions Served with White Rice and Sweet Plantains

For HR: THE CLASSIC CUBAN SAMPLER: White Rice, Black Beans, “Picadillo” Ground Beef, Roast Pork, Sweet Plantains, Ham Croquette, Cuban Tamale, and Cassava with Cuban Mojo

A photography mistake that still looks a bit cool. 

And back to the Airbnb for some needed relax time.

Our place has a little balcony that … sorta looks out over Biscayne Bay (if you dangerously stretch your neck).

May your weekend be filled with an array of Beautiful Views. Or at least one Beautiful View.

Goodnight!

Posted in My Saturday Evening Post

My Saturday Evening Post: 1/11/25 “The Highest Bidder?”

So back in 1985 I started saving my yearly/monthly calendars.

I’m not sure why.

So that makes … what? Forty years in 2025.

I suppose it started out as just a way to remember birthdays, appointments, to do’s and other important (or unimportant) dates I was prone to forget. This was before the days of “Siri, remind me ….”

But it morphed into jottings of my hopes and dreams, my frustrations, my successes, my problems, my New Year’s Resolutions (difficult to look back over today), my very … non-Facebook life.

As I skim through the pages of years/years of pages, I see emerging themes: family, children, travel, career, wife, ex-wife, coming out, husband, grandchildren, parental deaths, medical issues, joy, sorrow … Life.

I’m not sure what to do with them. Leave them to my daughters? Burn them?

The National Enquirer? People Magazine? The highest bidder?

Here’s to my new calendar for 2025 and whatever it may bring.

May your 2025 calendar be filled with Good.

And that’s my Saturday Evening Post. 1/11/2025.

Posted in Encouragement

Nothing Gold

Robert and I live in an old 1800’s apartment building in Historic District Savannah, so we don’t have much garden space. But we do what we can. (Correction: HR manages most of the “doing.”)

Here’s our little Japanese maple as she decided to “seasonally change” her outerwear recently.

Isn’t she gorgeous?!

I told her, EXCITEDLY, that she was simply LOVELY in her shimmering gold, thinking she would receive the compliment graciously.

And she did. Sort of. The she smiled, as wise sentient beings often do and said with patience (which wise sentient beings often have): “Neal” (I was thrilled she knew my name), “seasonal change, as you call it, is a part of life. We all go through it.”

“And sometimes it strips you bare.”

“Oh Gosh”

My smile drooped a bit. I wasn’t really keen on that part of our convo.

“It’s a part of life,” she said with no trepidation in her voice.

Maple got me to thinking, and I know I have probably used this poem far too often in my blog, but it SO resonates with me, especially as I’m getting … older and “seasonally changing.”

Nothing Gold Can Stay

Nature’s first green is gold,
Her hardest hue to hold.
Her early leaf’s a flower;
But only so an hour.
Then leaf subsides to leaf.
So Eden sank to grief,
So dawn goes down to day.
Nothing gold can stay.

— Robert Frost

Here are a few of Robert’s photos of Maple and her “seasonal change.”

May we all “seasonally change” so gracefully.

Posted in Five Friday Happy Bringers

Five Friday Happy Bringers 10/25/24

My weekly gratitude journal, of sorts.

1. Granddaughter Isabelle pumpkin-patching.

2. Fall!

A porch near us here in Historic District Savannah

3. I know I have mentioned this far too many times, but … the ability to BREATHE. In, Out. In, Out. In, Out.

4. Interesting trail names on a recent hike at nearby Whitemarsh Island Preserve Trail …

5. A cool artistic statue on the Augusta, Georgia river walk.

May you hurry to a wonderful weekend ahead!

Posted in Aging, Humor

Follow Up to Monday Evening’s “The Older I Get” Blog Post

So the other night, I did a silly post about photographing older folks (“older folks” meaning me).

Here’s a link, in case you missed it:

https://nealenjoy.com/2024/10/07/the-older-i-get-2/

Tonight, I am back in “My Square,” Washington Square, here in Historic District Savannah …

Reading …

Such a fun read! 

And I thought, “Should I do another selfie tonight?“

I started …

“There we go,” I thought, “that angle meets the criteria.”

Then got a bit braver …

And only because fellow blogger buddy Matt VERY generously said my best feature was my smile …

It’s getting dark, so I should go in. HR will be ready for dinner soon. 

Our autumn outside door 

Our autumn inside door

May you have a Joyful and Peaceful Wednesday night.