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Monday Moaning or Monday Marveling? 1/6/25 “Small Kindnesses”

Marveling this Monday Morning at the simple and beautiful truth of poetry.

Small Kindnesses

By Danusha Laméris

I’ve been thinking about the way, when you walk
down a crowded aisle, people pull in their legs
to let you by. Or how strangers still say “bless you”
when someone sneezes, a leftover
from the Bubonic plague. “Don’t die,” we are saying.
And sometimes, when you spill lemons
from your grocery bag, someone else will help you
pick them up. Mostly, we don’t want to harm each other.
We want to be handed our cup of coffee hot,
and to say thank you to the person handing it. To smile
at them and for them to smile back. For the waitress
to call us honey when she sets down the bowl of clam chowder,
and for the driver in the red pick-up truck to let us pass.
We have so little of each other, now. So far
from tribe and fire. Only these brief moments of exchange.
What if they are the true dwelling of the holy, these
fleeting temples we make together when we say, “Here,
have my seat,” “Go ahead—you first,” “I like your hat.”

Danusha Laméris’ insightful poem asks us to notice and cherish the many “small kindnesses” we exchange with strangers as we move through the world. Though quick, these moments have the potential to fulfill our shared need for compassion. 

Posted in Encouragement

“Almost Everything”

As I mentioned in a previous post, HR and I are up in Baltimore for his aunt’s funeral. It has been an extraordinarily busy couple of days, and we are both worn out.

So this afternoon, the last day of 2024, I found us a little independent bookstore/coffeeshop/winery, Backwater Books, in Ellicott City, a beautiful little hamlet about thirty minutes west of Baltimore.

From the moment we parked in Ellicott City’s parking area by the bubbling Patapsco River, we began to slow down.

OK, maybe my hair didn’t.

Stepping into the shop, holiday bookishness (can that be a word?) greeted us …

We looked around at the inviting stacks …

Robert got us got a dram of wine and we settled down …

For calm and quiet for the first time in days.

Posted in Monday Moaning or Monday Marveling?

Monday Moaning or Monday Marveling? 12/30/24 “Big Foot”

Marveling this Monday Morning at … life.

Robert and I are up in Baltimore for his dear Aunt Pat’s funeral.

We are staying at a lovely old Airbnb in the Fells Point community at Baltimore’s Inner Harbor (our favorite area of the city).

On a walk yesterday afternoon, Mother Nature reminded me of her incredible strength and resiliency.

Surrounded by all of man’s “built-ness,” one of her daughters stands strong …

… her foot firmly planted in the ground.

Alive.

Posted in Five Friday Happy Bringers

Five Friday Happy Bringers 12/27/24

My weekly gratitude journal, of sorts.

1. Morning coffee with Robert at Flora and Fauna, the coolest little coffee bar/supper club here in Savannah.

2. Youngest granddaughter Isabelle, one on one with Santa.

3. Mindfully recognizing and appreciating that I Feel Good whenever I Feel Good.

4. Christmas Day Supper with just HR and me. (We do a bigger Thanksgiving with family, but fam is scattered across the state, so now everyone does their own thing for Christmas.)

This year I told HR uber-enthusiastically that “I am making OYSTER DRESSING for the first time!”

He looked at me as I had just told him there is no Santa. (He still believes. See recent blog for proof.)

I got quickly to work, convinced that I could win him over. Even though he doesn’t accompany me when I have a hankering for …

… at one of Savannah’s fabulous oyster houses. “Neal, what must have been wrong with the first person in history who somehow—probably by freak accident—cracked open an oyster and said, ‘I’m gonna eat that slimy thing right now.’”

But I got him to like Susan Boyle, so how hard could a little mollusk shellfish be?

I opened up my two pints of oysters …

Prepped my other ingredients …

Fancy HR tells me this part of kitchen work is called “mise en place” (everything in its place).

All ready for the oven …

Forty-five deliciously anticipatory minutes later …

(I managed to place NOE—Neal’s Oyster Extravaganza—in the center of our little buffet in an attempt to make it the star.)

And guess what? (I’m sure you’re a nervous wreck by now wondering if he liked it.)

He did! He did! The joy bells rang triumphantly through Historic District Savannah!

(Although I have to confess that he took most of his dressing from around the edges … to avoid the possibility of slimy you know what. And covered it with his yummy mushroom gravy. But still, I declare Victory!)

5. The Seasonal Pause of Quiet and Calm that seems to occur each year between Christmas and the New Year (at least in my mind).

May you find some Quiet and Calm this final weekend of 2024.

Posted in Holiday Joy

Peaceful Christmas Eve To You All

I have shared this little virtual Christmas card on my blog before (I received it from a dear sweet friend several years ago), but it is just so very meditatively “Christmas Eve Simple Peaceful” that I thought I would post it again.

Bethlehem‘s in sight!

Posted in Encouragement

Nothing Gold

Robert and I live in an old 1800’s apartment building in Historic District Savannah, so we don’t have much garden space. But we do what we can. (Correction: HR manages most of the “doing.”)

Here’s our little Japanese maple as she decided to “seasonally change” her outerwear recently.

Isn’t she gorgeous?!

I told her, EXCITEDLY, that she was simply LOVELY in her shimmering gold, thinking she would receive the compliment graciously.

And she did. Sort of. The she smiled, as wise sentient beings often do and said with patience (which wise sentient beings often have): “Neal” (I was thrilled she knew my name), “seasonal change, as you call it, is a part of life. We all go through it.”

“And sometimes it strips you bare.”

“Oh Gosh”

My smile drooped a bit. I wasn’t really keen on that part of our convo.

“It’s a part of life,” she said with no trepidation in her voice.

Maple got me to thinking, and I know I have probably used this poem far too often in my blog, but it SO resonates with me, especially as I’m getting … older and “seasonally changing.”

Nothing Gold Can Stay

Nature’s first green is gold,
Her hardest hue to hold.
Her early leaf’s a flower;
But only so an hour.
Then leaf subsides to leaf.
So Eden sank to grief,
So dawn goes down to day.
Nothing gold can stay.

— Robert Frost

Here are a few of Robert’s photos of Maple and her “seasonal change.”

May we all “seasonally change” so gracefully.

Posted in Five Friday Happy Bringers

Five Friday Happy Bringers 12/13/24

My weekly gratitude journal, of sorts.

1. Enjoying an Awesome Anniversary Meal at Savannah’s The Grey restaurant.

2. This little happy bringer I saw in a restroom recently.

3. A wonderfully festive little day trip to Days of Creation Christmas Tree Farm over in Jesup GA.

4. Our annual Holiday Lunch with ex-wife Donna at the very touristy, but still loads of fun Pirates House restaurant across the street from HR and me.

5. Simple Christmas Pretty.

May you find some simple holiday joy this weekend.

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Five Friday Happy Bringers 11/29/24

My weekly gratitude journal, of sorts.

1. This old tree we saw near us on a Thanksgiving morning walk in Savannah’s Colonial Park Cemetery.

Do you see what I see on his trunk?

In the lower half, there’s a Big Bunny with gigantic upward ears!

And if you forget the bunny and look again at the entire trunk, there’s a Brown Monster with a three-pronged crown, green tongue and menacingly raised arms! Watch out!

2. On the other hand, here’s a quartet of happily handsome fellows: son-in-law Scott and three grandsons Jack, Gabriel and Daniel searching for the perfect Christmas tree.

3. A bountiful Thanksgiving Feast yesterday.

Robert, Me, Son-in-law Scott and Daughter Amy who hosted
Oh, and Coastal, ready to play.

4. Moments in life when you feel JOY.

5. And finally, I’m happily thankful for HR.

Okay, that’s a BIG image.

May you have a BIG weekend ahead!