Posted in Five Friday Happy Bringers

Five Friday Happy Bringers — 1/31/14

1.  Happy Chinese New Year 2014!  The Year of the Horse.  (The new year starts today, Jan. 31!)

ChineseNewYear1
ChineseNewYear2

2.  Speaking of celebrations, as some of you know, the #%*! birthday of Yours Truly occurred earlier this month.  What you don’t know is that, for some reason (which I should probably discuss with my therapist), I HATE being sung Happy Birthday to at restaurants.  It just SO embarrasses me.  I turn beet red.  So when daughter Amy suggested La Parrilla for my family bday celebratory meal, I IMMEDIATELY said, “NO!” (probably too loudly) because of the huge sombrero …

sombrero1

… which must be worn as ALL the staff gathers round and screamingly sings, “Feliz Cumpleaños a ti!”  I quickly chose another restaurant where I knew they did not serenade patrons.

And my %+&! bday passed by without the public festive vocalization.

Tonight after the gym, I went to La Parrilla for chimichanga.  Feeling brazen, I ordered a mojito.  And as required by restaurant rules (as opposed to simply glancing at my graying hair), the friendly, delightful waitress Kimberly asked to see my ID.  I smiled and showed her my driver’s license, to which she seemingly sincerely and joyfully replied, “Oh!  Happy late birthday!”  I thanked her and went back to seeing how much salsa I could get on one tortilla chip.

A delicious meal later, I heard clapping hands, MANY thunder-clapping hands, and looked up to see a sea of La Parrilla employees–waiters and waitresses, the hostesses, the bartender, the manager, cooks, dishwashers, janitors, the owner, the business partners, the accountants, the CEO, the CFO, most of the diners (okay maybe I’m exaggerating a little, but not much) –walking (skipping?) from the other side of the restaurant.  I thought to myself, “Whew, gosh, somebody’s in for it!” but smiled and pretended to join the revelry as the loud little army marched forward.  I looked around to see who looked bithdayish.  I spotted a chubby man with long dreads, eating a tamale but looking up and grinning at the clappers.  “This is kinda fun,” I thought, ready even to clap and sing a tiny bit.  The guy looked so happy.

But then, the musical marauders didn’t turn toward tamale’s table.  They stopped at mine!  Total confusion.  But then it happened.  The big sombrero

jC0zDWivMIRexdG0.jpg

… gingerly landed on my head (placed there by the CEO, I think).  And louder than loud: “Feliz Cumpleaños a ti!” over and over.

2i9yiUeMT4UzbEKq.jpg
OkF8NNHzflPGXuGc.jpg
rKBw9TC7VJX6S06u.jpg

But to my utter amazement (and probably because I wasn’t expecting it and it happened so quickly) I found myself actually ENJOYING the impromptu celebration.

So when the crowd left my table (looking winded and exhausted), but while tamale was still gazing (a little envious, I think), I threw the sombrero down on the floor and expertly performed the traditional Mexican Hat Dance.

ZfMgvEqnHfXk7SWj.jpg
GPCFka8wRiyUgX0N.jpg

That showed them.  And I thought it was a good way to thank Kimberly, as I sat back down to enjoy my complimentary sugary sopapillas.

3.  Another great winter soup, made with (among other things) beet stems and beet greens

xH10v2vYXZYnwMpG.jpg
Ab7hWAhnogKxnYSh.jpg
pXq092A9m7UhJevm.jpg

4.  Fun time with grandtwin Matthew.

FtfWn8MxbSMarcjc.jpg

5.  Making it through the South’s winter storm.

in1oZ55UXLPrEUy1.jpg

Grab joy this weekend.  It’s there for the taking!

Posted in Five Friday Happy Bringers

Five Friday Happy Bringers (6/14/13)

I’m Hot but Happy.  98 degrees yesterday here in Savannah (heat index way over 100); 95 today.  Whew.  But unless I’m having heat tremors, here’s what I’m happy about today.

1.  Seeing Love listed as an ingredient on a product label.

Kale4
Kale1

But kale?  KALE??  Seriously?

2.  The surprising, intricate beauty of looking up in Savannah.

Kale3

3.  My good buddy Riboclavin

Kale7

… without a thermometer.  Okay, so maybe he doesn’t seem to be enjoying his food 100%, but still, he’s sitting in the sun, getting a vitamin D boost.

4.  As some of you know, my grandkids call me “Abu” (Cuban/Hispanic shortened version of grandfather) because I thought “grandfather,” etc sounded entirely too paternally old.  Well, six-year-old Daniel and three-year-old Gabriel are WILD over Skylanders.  If you don’t know what I’m talking about, DO NOT try to figure it out.  It’s far too complicated.  But the Skylander franchise is basically taking over the world, of kids.  Anyway, I recently told D and G that a brand new, exciting Skylander figure had just come available on the market, AbuForce!

The three-year old bought it for minute until the six-year-old exclaimed, “No way, Abu.  You’re joking again.”

“I am not,” I lied.  (Why does that trait come so easily to me?)

“Prove it, then,” smart-mouth Daniel challenged.

“Okay I will,” I responded, having no clue how to do so, or even what I meant.

“When?” he asked, a little smart-mouthier.

“Tomorrow,” I easily answered.

Sometimes, angels come your way.  I told my friend Robert about my dilemma.  He laughed and said he might be able to help.  It seems the U.S miltary has a program called Huggs-to-Go, providing dolls for children of service men and women deployed.  The figures have a place at the face for pictures of dad or mom, etc.  Since Robert is retired Army and currently works at Hunter Army Airfield, he somehow managed to get me two of the dolls.

I presented the AbuForce figures to Daniel and Gabriel the next day.  Both, in shock that there really was an AbuForce, melted my heart with their excitement over my little joke.

Kale8
Kale9

And the following day, they brought unparalleled joy to my heart when they both told me that they slept with AbuForce.

5.  Beautiful paths to walk down.

Kale6

Look for some joy this weekend.  You’ll find it.

Posted in In Our Own Backyard

Sunday Afternoon Adventure at Bonaventure: A PhotoJournal

wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-122-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-122-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-121-PM.jpg

I spent an incredibly warm but wonderfully interesting couple of hours this afternoon at the historically magnificent Bonaventure Cemetery here in my beautiful Savannah.  The day might have been heavy and muggy, but my time there was anything but–cooler than Leopold’s!  It seems that every second Sunday the Bonaventure Historical Society offers free guided tours of the cemetery, so I showed up thirty minutes early with a big water bottle and wearing my thinnest t-shirt.

Before leaving my air conditioning, I checked out the cemetery’s website and learned that …

Though not Savannah’s oldest cemetery, Bonaventure is certainly its most famous and hauntingly beautiful. Quintessentially Southern Gothic, it has captured the imaginations of writers, poets, naturalists, photographers and filmmakers for more than 150 years. Part natural cathedral, part sculptural garden, Bonaventure transcends time.

Military generals, poet Conrad Aiken, Academy Award-winning lyricist Johnny Mercer and Georgia’s first governor Edward Telfair are among those buried at Bonaventure. The approximately 100-acre cemetery is also historically significant as a reflection of changing views on death and dying in the Victorian era. As death became more romanticized and ritualized during this period, cemeteries became lush, beautiful “cities of the dead.”

Another reason behind Bonaventure’s popularity is John Berendt’s book, Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil, which featured a cover photo of the now-famous “Bird Girl” statue, formerly located in Bonaventure. The statue has since been moved to the Telfair Museum of Art, founded through the bequest of Mary Telfair, also buried at Bonaventure. 

Our tour guide, the vivacious Ms. Elizabeth Ford …

wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-156-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-154-PM.jpg

… oozed Southern hospitality and a spoke a delicious Southern dialect.  (After the tour, I wanted to go home with her just to hear her talk some more. But I didn’t really know how to ask.)

Elizabeth led us around the hauntingly beautiful Gothic graveyard, along the banks of the lazy Wilmington River, regaling us with stories of the history of the place and showing us gravesites of some of the more prominent folks buried there.  But what I loved most of all was the simple interplay of a deeply Southern voice leading me, slowly, on Sunday afternoon time, through such beauty.

wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-221-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-227-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-148-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-121-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-144-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-151-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-151-PM.jpg

(In the above pic, I was aiming for a cemetery facial expression.  Did I get anywhere close?)

wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-219-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-245-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-243-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-331-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-222-PM.jpg

(I wish I had a ponytail like that guy to my left.)

wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-223-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-307-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-306-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-306-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-235-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-232-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-232-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-227-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-303-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-246-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-308-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-328-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-338-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-320-PM.jpg

My parents taught me to love cemeteries.  As friendly places, reservoirs of wonderful memories.  To this day, when I return home to visit them, we usually end up at one of several cemeteries in or around my hometown of Ball Ground, Georgia, where close relatives are buried.  Granny Nix and Veto.  Mama and Papa Saye.  My brother Jimmy who lived only one week.  Old Doc Saye, Ball Ground’s first doctor.    Pulling weeds around a headstone, or straightening flower arrangements, we get caught up in “Remember when’s” and “She was a pistol!” and “I still miss him so much.”  They taught me that I am standing tall today because of all of them who came before.

wpid-Photo-Jun-9-2013-320-PM.jpg

Bonaventure: an afternoon of warm joy.

Bonaventure Cemetery Website

Posted in Savannah Joy

Farmers’ Marketing

FM25

Saturday morning I stumbled out of bed (you would think someone my age could deal with morning a bit better) and walked a few blocks to Savannah’s Forsyth Park to get some fresh vegetables.  (It’s spring, so I’m on my Annual Quest to get in Stellar Shape for the maybe two times I go to Tybee Island and the beach during the summer.  I haven’t seen abs in forty years, but I’m such an optimist I AM NOT GIVING UP.  Do you hear me?!  I intend to be on the cover of Men’s Fitness one day.)

FM24

The Forsyth Farmers’ Market is the coolest gathering of local vendors offering fresh–often organic–fruits and vegetables, along with coffees, breads, honey, jams, juices, pasta, fish, beef, poultry, herbs, flowers, etc.  I LOVE their statement of purpose: “The mission of the Forsyth Farmers’ Market is to promote understanding and participation in a local food system that supports sustainable production and increases access to local products.” 

FM25

FM24

FM21

FM11

FM8

FM7

FM3

FM2

FM1

Coolest dog at the market:

FM30

Coolest shoes at the market:

FM29

FM14

FM10

FM18

FM16

What joyful shopping!

FM5

Posted in In Our Own Backyard

Touring Savannah’s City Hall, Y’all

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-104-PM.jpg

Every First Tuesday Savannah’s City Hall opens its doors for free tours.  I know, I know, touring City Hall doesn’t sound like the most exciting entertainment venue around.  But hold on just a second, compadre.  After a hefty helping of Gabriella’s Zesty Chicken (on mashed potatoes) at Zunzi’s, I wobbled down Bull Street, remembering just in time to look up before I reached the river, and saw this …

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1156-AM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1156-AM.jpg

… Savannah’s incredibly beautiful City Hall.

city hall
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1157-AM.jpg

Completed in 1905 …

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-109-PM.jpg

… City Hall features two figures who adorn the front, just below the clock and gold dome.  And those two pretty ladies represent Commerce and Art.  If you know anything about Savannah, you will find those figures so, so timely.  Because what was true in 1905 is certainly true today:  Savannah is both a big business city (Savannah Port and Gulfstream, for example) as well as a cultured, artistic town (SCAD, Savannah Music Festival, festivals galore).

Come along.

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-106-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-105-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1258-PM.jpg

The original clockwork is now in the lobby:

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1228-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-104-PM.jpg

I really loved the wood floor.

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1237-PM.jpg

Looking up to the interior stain glass dome:

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-100-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1158-AM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1259-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1259-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1246-PM.jpg

Some important Savannahian.  (I want a bust made of me.  Where can you go to get that done?  Hobby Lobby?  Michael’s?)

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1247-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1229-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1228-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1159-AM.jpg

The plaque below looked historically official, so I stood there trying to read it to make people think I’m smart and all, but then I started daydreaming about the Vanilla Taffy down at River Street Sweets, so I took a picture of the plaque (which sorta still made me look smart because why else would you take a picture?).

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1228-PM.jpg

Here I am with the really interesting tour guide (and SCAD grad), Luciana Spracher.  She knew her stuff!

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1258-PM.jpg

Did you know Savannah has a flag?

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1245-PM.jpg

View from a back window of city hall:

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1230-PM.jpg

Very cool open style elevator cage:

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1230-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1230-PM.jpg

Something important looking:

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1242-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1232-PM.jpg

I pretended to know the mayor.  But you can only stand in front of her office for so long before people start to wonder what you’re doing.

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1231-PM.jpg

TANGENT:  A couple of months ago, I attended an event at the Savannah Civic Center with our mayor, Edna Jackson.

wpid-Photo-Feb-1-2013-843-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Feb-1-2013-852-PM.jpg

Okay, okay, maybe I wasn’t exactly with the mayor, but you can’t tell that from the above photo with her and Savannah State’s President, Dr. Cheryl Davenport Dozier.

*******

Luciana led us into the Savannah City Council chambers.  For some reason I just got so excited.

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1232-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1235-PM.jpg

Here I am sitting at the mayor’s desk.  (Does she know people do this?)

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1254-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1241-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1254-PM.jpg

What a fun (and educational) tour!  Thanks, Luciana.

wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-101-PM.jpg
wpid-Photo-Apr-2-2013-1229-PM.jpg

I Love Savannah!

Posted in Life Experiences

Touch

sadeyes3

Savannah’s Broughton Street bustles with activity this past Friday night, even for a warm and gorgeous early spring evening. I suppose Broughton is as close as my quirky, Midnight City gets to having a normal Main Street, as the historic district snakes around twenty-two breathtakingly beautiful squares. (Savannah’s downtown area is unique and hard to describe–come visit us to see what I mean.)

My friend Robert and I venture to the Crystal Beer Parlor, share joyful banter with lovely Hostess Fifi, meet good buddies, consume delicious and perfectly prepared ribeye steak. Friday night joy. Next, Broughton Street Market with dream-laden lottery tickets in hand. Walking toward my car. Traverse past hip young couples pushing into dance clubs; midde-agers brandishing bags with Paula Deen leftovers; older folks leaving Savannah Music Festival venues; SCAD kids with blue hair waving in the breeze. Packed, noisy sidewalks. All well. Very well.

Then fate interrupts–as she often does.

They sit on the sidewalk. No sprawl. As if dumped there. Three young men, in their early twenties. Two dogs. Man and pet, dirty, smelly, retched. Outcasts from society. A block from McDonald’s.

I live downtown and have grown immune to the homeless, the beggars, the street people. They merge and melt into the old bricks, the azaleas, the wooden benches. So what if there is an occassional grocery cart on its side in the shadows? No big deal. It happens.

But then the soiled speak.

“Can you guys help us out? We’re hungry.” Honesty makes me tell you my reaction: No Reaction. Walking on. Past the dirty ones. Then Robert turns, and says, “I can’t give you money, but I can buy you some food.”

Why do I hang out with people like Robert? It’s so much easier to keep walking. Walking past. Walking toward. Past what I don’t want to see, acknowledge. Walking toward the known, the comfortable.

“What are you doing?” I ask Robert, a bit frustrated.

“Getting them something to eat,” he says matter-of-factly.

I try but can’t think of a real reason to stop this interruption of my previously perfect night.

Too late, already inside McDonald’s, I remember a possible reason to have kept walking, a religious reason even: didn’t Jesus say that we would always have the poor with us?

But Robert, reasonless, places the order.

Five minutes later, with a bag of burgers and a tray of dollar menu sweet teas, we walk back toward the vagabonds. One young guy, with his mouth inexplicably sucking on the side of a smoking soda can, with pierced nose tattooed in triplicate black dots along the bridge, stands up in dryrotted pants that touch bony, bare knees. Drunk. Or high. Or both.

I hold out the bag of burgers. Away from my body, and toward his. Embarrassed.

The young leader looks up at me and says, “Man, you guys are beautiful. I gotta stand up and thank you. That’s a cool jacket.”

I want to be anywhere, anywhere but here.

He starts to stand, to reach out to hug me, drunkenly.

But pauses, perhaps sensing my hesitancy.

I then see his eyes.

And my safe world shatters.

For his eyes are the eyes of a real boy. A boy with a mama and a daddy somewhere. A boy who used to be a baby.

“Where are you guys from?” I ask, shakily, terrified but now connected. Joined. Level.

“San Francisco, long way from home,” he replies.

And then my knowing comes: his eyes could be the eyes of my daughters. The eyes of my grandchildren.

Without thinking, I reach out and touch his scraggly face and hold it for a moment. I see him. I really see him. He sees me.

“If this was reversed, I would do this for you, man,” he says haltingly, as he takes the burgers back to the ground, to his low place.

Robert and I walk away.

Less than two blocks later, I feel tears on my face.

sadeyes2